Yep. Nailed it. 

Look, things don’t always go as we think they should–cutting your own bangs, wearing tennis shoes with skinny jeans, and

believing the McDonald’s ice cream machine is actually going to work this time.

Turns out, our expectations are really just wishful thinking. When it comes to how we process and respond to trauma, this is magnified. K&K discuss how our expectations differ from the reality of experiencing a traumatic event and what we as a society project onto those who have to endure a life-changing experience.

Kobe Bryant’s Oscar win is why we can’t have nice things. But hey, “Time’s Up”… or something like that…

Fight, flight, or freeze is exemplified in a car crash scenario K&K experienced together in 2015.

Humans are psychologically hardwired to victim blame, but we can actively work to change that impulse. The “just-world bias” happens because our brains crave predictability, and as such, we tend to blame victims of unfairness rather than reject the comforting worldview suggesting that good will be rewarded and evil punished.

Our ‘AFAF’ Question comes from a great guy looking for answers as to how he can help his friends who are still experiencing the aftermath of a non-consensual sexual experience.


K&K’s Mentioned Links:

Kirsta recommends a great YA book about the aftermath of sex assault. Be forewarned, it’s missing a much needed *Trigger Warning*!! ‘Exit, Pursued by a Bear’ by EK Johnston is available on Amazon.

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